I just keep thinking as I read this, who are her friends? Who is she hanging around with because THESE are her greatest influence right now. They are probably all of the same mind set and if she brings out the part of her that you encourage, she will be thrown out of the group. That is very hard for a teenager no matter what kind of influence comes from that group of ‘friends’.

And I think this is a situation I have seen with other young people I know. Why they choose this road? Who knows? But if her formitable years were not the best and that she was not told what a wonderful little girl she was then, it is really hard for her to believe that now. It takes a lot of time and commitment from her and the person helping her. She has to decide that she is ready for the help.

Like I always said, if you stop eating chocolate, that doesn’t mean I will loose weight!

I commend you on your open heart and giving freely of your family and love to this young woman. A better day is coming for all of you.

Hugs
Brenda

most people do disagree with me that there is no right or wrong, and i can totally understand where they are coming from. this is not the forum to expound or extrapolate my position further, nor is it my intention to change your mind or anyone else’s for that matter.

really glad you can see that you have my support.

if i could leave a hug on here, i would.

good on ya.
deb
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When someone doesn’t have morals or values and they just don’t care, they go about their life living in a way that could potentially hurt someone.

I believe that we were all put on this earth for a purpose. I am full aware of what my purpose is, but some people are not there yet…liike this girl. By getting involved in another peoson’s life, mentoring them, and leading by example you may just help them find their purpose. That is exactly what Christina and I were trying to do but like I said, when a person doesn’t have self-respect or even take into consideration that their actions may have serious consequences then there is not point to help them because that just means they are not ready to change. However, when a person comes to me and says, “What I’m doing is not working. How can you help me?” I will do whatever I can to help!

It’s just like internet marketing. I use to struggle because I had no support and had no idea the techniques I was doing were really the wrong techniques. Then I met a few people that showed me a different way, a better way, a less stressful way, a less expensive way to do things. Once I had the right information and applied it to my business (acted upon it), I then started to see positive results. It’s not different in the real world. People need support and once we realize that we can’t do everything alone and learn to ask for help when we need it, we then can start to make some positive progress.

Thanks for your support!

Well, where do I start with your post? I want to commend you for your intention and I in no way even begin to think I know what you have gone through or that I know what’s best for you and your family.

I just want to say, the greatest gift/service you can give another is to see them as they REALLY are … beyond the choices, beyond the appearances, beyond the defiance, beyond the “contrast” in fact, see the contrast for the gift it has within.

One way that I see the world is that there is no “right” and “wrong” … there is only what works for YOU. a lot of so called problems (which i call contrast) stem from our belief that there is one way, the right way, to live, and although our intentions are honourable and loving, when we impose that belief on another .. well … that’s where it starts to break down.

and that brings me right back to sharing with you what works for me … i am not saying at all that i think you should live this way, because my way is not THE way, it is just ONE way of many.

i believe our interactions are a co-creative experience. at some level, she was asking and you were her answer and on that same level, you were asking and she was your answer. interesting to contemplate …

which brings me to my conclusion … i just felt inspired t share that with you for whatever co-creation we just experienced together.

you are both/all (including your 2 children who i believe also co-created these experiences) magnificent!!!! beyond measure. beyond comprehension.

conscious creation is my quest
regards
deborah
Deborah´s last blog ..Playing for Change – Stand By Me

Thank you for sharing this message. I can imagine it was a tough decision to make, but I`m in no doubt that you made the right decision.

Your compassion comes clearly forward in your post, and I feel privileged to work with you.

Eirik.

Sometimes it takes a while for lessons we learn to sink in. This could be true for the 17 year old you took in. It could also be true for you; perhaps you’ll discover a way to handle a similar situation differently next time, and receive a different outcome.

One thing is for sure. Your desire to extend love to others in need of care is truly needed in this world today.

I commend you for taking the risk you did, for putting out the energy and your willingness to do it again.

Who knows, maybe this young lady will come around afterall.
Wouldn’t that be great!

Joe